To forgive completely, you must
release yourself from accepting the sins of your spouse. And, you must detach
from the thoughts you are feeling from the sin your spouse committed. If you do
this wholeheartedly you will be able to forgive them. See Free E-book on
Forgiving an unfaithful spouse.
Remember that only discussing a
problem with your spouse doesn't necessarily free you from the feelings of
bitterness and resentment. You must forgive your spouse from within yourself to
be free in heart, mind and soul. .
When you allow yourself freedom from
another's burden, your spirit awakens from within and allows you to use it for
the good in every aspect of your life. Because you are free to be yourself
without allowing your emotions to dictate your actions.
Once you have learned how to forgive
properly by not soaking in the consequences of your spouse’s actions, they too,
will begin to see that he or she is only doing these things to themselves. When
you detach yourself from their weakness, instead of being the spongy spouse you
have been, it will inevitably grab at their conscience and make them realize
that they are alone in their behavior.
Let me reiterate this again--when we detach ourselves from negative feelings and actions, we
don't take the abuse.
Detaching doesn't mean that you don’t
love your spouse or that you must be cruel to them. On the contrary, when you
detach yourself from negative behavior and feelings from within your spirit, it
allows you to truly love who you married the way God intended you to love them,
with no conditions set upon your love for them!!
At first, detaching from your spouse in this way may seem unkind
to you, but it is not. You are being unkind to your spouse by not forgiving
them!
